Resources

Here are some books and websites I have enjoyed and found useful. I’ll update it regularly. The resources here are not meant to be used alone without the guidance of qualified professionals if you have serious trauma or health issue.

Resource in Mandarin

Taiwanese Radio talk show on psychotherapy. There are useful book reviews and discussion on parenting, gender role.

李宜靜 is a yoga teacher and a Jung analyst candidate. Her blog in Mandarin about personal growth is approachable and relevant.

Parenting

Yes, Your Teen is Crazy: This is one of the most realistic book on parenting teens I have read lately. Our teens are living in a different world than the time we were teens and the world they face is quite intense. This book teaches you how to be the parents that your teens need for them to thrive, be safe, and have meaningful relationship. Caveat: Because this book is quite candid, you might feel quite worried or upset reading it.

Positive Discipline: I like this book because it focuses on long term parenting. It helps us think about the effect of our parenting style on our kids’ long term development instead of over-parenting/micromanaging which take away our children’s ability to grow and learn to be independent.

The Parenting Handbook: This is a great book on helping you establishing good relationship and solve behavior problems with your children. It help you raise children who are confident, happy, and responsible. Very suitable for parents with elementary school age children.

Trauma-Proofing Your Kids: This is a great guide for parents who want to focus on raising resilient children.

Homework Strategy: Ann Dolin’s website offers many articles and free resources on homework strategy.

Online Learning Apps for Kids: LearningWork4Kids. Great site with lots of resource on screen time management, best strategy for managing learning with children with ADHD

Self-Esteem

Self Esteem Workbook For Teens: Fun and thoughtful CBT exercises that help put everyday anxiety/interactions in perspective and learn about who you are.

Creative Journal For Children: This book uses art and simple writing to hep kids explore their identity, feelings, and experience. It doesn’t require artistic skills.

Anxiety

Anxiety Workbook for Teens: CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) techniques in managing anxiety. Meaningful and useful exercise to do on your own or with a helpful adult/friend to put anxiety in perspective.

Emotional Eaters Repair Manual: This is a good book for those who uses eating as a way of coping. If you have serious trauma or health issue, you should work with a qualified professional while using this book to supplement your healing journey.

Meditation with Charles Knoles: Mindbodygreen.com has a meditation introduction with Charles Knoles which I find really approachable and effective and reducing anxiety and keeping our mind calm.

Relationship

The Divorce Remedy by Michele Weiner Davis is a great book on looking at your marriage issues from a different angle and finding new solutions to resolve nagging problems.  If this book inspires you to start changing your way of relating and you want more help, please give me a call at 650.397.1376 or email at wendy@wendyyehmft.com

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel helps you explore sexual eroticism in a long term relationship and find ways to keep the passion going.

Divorcing Peacefully by Larry Stone. A local MFT who specialize in helping couples navigating divorce while minimizing drama and legal battles.

How to Do Your Own Divorce in California by Ed Sherman. This book gives you some basic information on legal requiremetns, rights and obligations regarding divorce. Every situation is unique and you should consider consulting with a family lawyer that practice in your county of residence.

Tell Me No Lie: by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson help you explore your couple communication pattern of your relationship that leads to increasing relationship stress.

Dating

Gettheguy.co.uk: It may come off as a bit gimmicky or manipulative but the basic message is that you gotta love your self and respect yourself first so you don’t let other overstep your boundary. Learn to be safe enough for yourself to handle being vulnerable enough to let someone else in. There’s a lot of practical techniques too!

Worksheets

Goal vs. Behavior Tracker: You have an intention to create a new type of relationship or functioning in your life. Let’s track how often you’re acting according to your intentions and what areas need improvements.  Sometime improvements is hard because you feel over-extended, stressed-out, or feel others are in the way.  You can use the worksheet below to see how you’re using your time and if there’s adjustments to be made to live more in alignment of your intention.

Time Management Tracker: Track how you’re spending your day. Together with this article on Prioritizing Self-Care, see if some modifications would help you live more intentionally.